How did you all support each other through this process?
I would say, by just listening. Most of the situations shared in the book were difficult to discuss. Primarily because of the embarrassing, unbelievable nature of them. Having people who understand, and are not judgmental, or condescending about these experiences made it more comfortable to discuss them without reservation.
What is the hardest thing about writing?
The hardest thing for me was accepting these words as true. These were stories we shared dozens of times amongst each other, but to see them in print, made things a little more real than I realized. Often people can compartmentalize their trauma and not let it affect them. But in writing, it is harder to separate yourself from your words.
Who are your favorite authors?
What was the best part of doing this book collaboration? Would you be willing to do it again?
Sharing the experiences with people who understand. If it was any other couple of people, I didn’t share a rapport with, it would be a lot more friction. As it stood the hardest part about collaboration was picking a font. So yes, I would be willing to work with wonderful ladies again. And might even be currently working with them on a follow up.
Don’t Believe Your Writing Eyes reads like a memoir. What other book genre do you want to write?
I am currently working on a book of poetry.
Did you practice self-care with the writing of this book?
For me writing is self-care. So, the process itself was very cathartic.
Was there a catharsis at the end of this book?
I would say the catharsis is the book. Being able to read along and see these stories recanted allows people to relate in a way that other text can’t replicate. Being able to identify with one of the characters, but not having to suspend disbelief in order to achieve genuine investment. The catharsis comes with knowing that if you are on this journey, you are not alone. There are others out there facing similar struggles and trying to overcome them. And really, that realization that we are all in this together is more cathartic than finishing the book.
In retrospect, would you have changed anything about the writing process of this book?
I would change the formatting process, honestly. It was the most headache we had trying to get it right. That and the editing. Both of which were tedious and troublesome.
At the end of this book how did you celebrate?
We were like, “We are done!” and clapped our hands. I exhaled.